Love is one of the most powerful and fulfilling emotions that a human being can feel. For most people, romantic relationships are extremely valuable and something to be cherished. However, when infidelity occurs in a relationship, the psychological effects can be absolutely devastating.
According to a study guided by the transactional stress theory, research showed that couples who suffered from infidelity had more negative effects on their mental health including depression, anxiety, distress, and a higher chance of engaging in health-compromising behaviors. For the partner who was cheated on, it is not uncommon for them to suffer from anger, depression, rage, and loss of self-esteem or confidence. Being the victim of such emotional abuse can be devastating for many. It is important to understand that being cheated on often has the same effects on a person as a loved one passing away. Similarly, the grieving process can take just as long and can be just as difficult.
Here are some healthy ways to cope if you have been affected by this unfortunate experience:
1. Talk About It
Go to therapy, talk to your friends, family, your dog, or even your plants. Talk to strangers, priests, co-workers, and anyone who will listen. Get it out of your system. Talking about the situation out loud will help you realize that it was out of your control and you are not to blame. Unfortunately your partner made a selfish decision, and talking to others will help you understand that.
2. Cry It Out
If there are days where you feel like you can’t do anything but stay in bed and cry, DO THAT. Crying is a healthy emotion after experiencing a loss. Let the floodgates open!
3. Go Out
Get dressed up and go out with your friends. Take a look in the mirror and acknowledge that YOU ARE A CATCH! Live in the moment. It’s almost impossible not to smile when you are with the people who love you!
4. Sweat Out The Frustration
Sweating induces the body’s “feel good” endorphins. So even if you are suffering emotionally, you can feel better physically. Going to the gym for an hour or simply exercising outdoors can help you feel better.
5. Give Yourself Space From Your Partner
Whether you choose to get back together with your partner or not, space is healthy. Space away from each other helps you see things more clearly before you make a big decision.
6. Explore Your Faith And Spirituality
Research indicates that people who are more resilient are less likely to be depressed or anxious and can bounce back from traumatic situations at a quicker rate. According to the APA Handbook of Psychology, Religion and Spirituality, people who believe in a higher power are proven to be more resilient than those who do not. Resiliency is KEY when trying to recover from a traumatic situation.
7. Practice Deep Breathing And Meditation
Anxiety is a common occurrence after being cheated on. Some ways to help calm your anxiety is to take deep breaths, be present and take back control. Be mindful to the fact that all situations are temporary, including painful ones like this.
8. Date Yourself!
Take yourself out to expensive restaurants, get your nails done, get a massage or go see a movie. Do whatever it is that you do to TREAT YO SELF. ----And when you’re ready, get back out there!
If you are trying to build a healthy relationship, go check out the book “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.
Take the quiz to find out your love language! https://www.5lovelanguages.com/
If you have further questions or just need someone to talk to, feel free to connect with me!
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